What You’re Asking: Asteroids and Social Skills

special powers psyche goddess has

I’m surprised Yoda wasn’t able to answer this (get it? the word order is oh *sigh* never mind just a sad attempt at a joke!) When Zeus found in Psyche’s favor (see the full account of Psyche, Eros, and Venus in ‘The Astrology of Intimate Relationship’ available here http://dogandsunflower.wordpress.com or in the original article here https://askjulie.wordpress.com/venus-and-psyche/) he awarded the mortal freshly minted as goddess a portion of Venus’ realm. The story of what happened between Venus and Psyche suggests that Psyche’s placement and aspects may show our attitude toward committed love, in the form of one’s struggle to love and be loved without impediment, as well as showing particular relationships with/ to females that could involve jealousy and competition. It also represents on a personal level one’s potential to be born to a new, more powerful life, related in the story to her revival by Eros and the conveyance of the status of goddess by Zeus. I think Psyche in the natal chart must be read in conjunction with Venus–the relationship between the two, once you know the story of their interaction, will tell you a great deal about the chart individual’s attitudes toward love and relationship, and for females, is especially descriptive of patterns of interaction they may encounter with other females. The only special powers Psyche has are ones available to all of us: persistence, curiosity, intuitive openness and willingness to follow the prompts of the Universe, and the power that comes with loving another.

Ceres synastry

Ceres is goddess of Nature, an entity equivalent to Mother Earth, and having such a maternal vibe can wreak havoc in a romantic relationship (contact can, of course, be a huge plus between a parent and child, nurse/ physician/ health care provider and patient, or in friendships or any relationship where some caretaking, one person of the other, may be welcome or in order). It’s in romance where Ceres can act as the ultimate desire-killer, particularly when a woman’s Ceres contacts something identity-oriented of a man’s–Sun, Mars, Ascendant ruler, Sun ruler, Midheaven. Then we may see the male perceive the female as trying to mother him, and this can be no matter what her real actions are–the Ceres energy becomes an overlay to the perceptual lens–she can’t help but seem motherly to him, as he will look for and identify those attitudes and behaviors on his own! The other main effect of any Ceres contact is that it shows where and how the Ceres individual may be inclined to negotiate with the other person. For instance, a man’s Ceres conjunct a woman’s Sun, Moon, or Venus may involve him trying to influence her identity, particularly in a way that promotes what he sees as ‘natural.’ He may try to apply his ideas of standards of beauty as expressed through the sign placement of the conjunction, or those that relate to his own Moon or Venus placements. He may also try to negotiate for her to carry a portion of his anima. Or, for example, with a woman’s Ceres conjunct a man’s Pluto, we see the classic negotiation situation between two powerful Beings; in this case, it’s likely the relationship will feature a constant jockeying for power and position–but this isn’t necessarily bad–for some, it can be a stimulating and enjoyable contact, along the lines of playful sparring.

how to prevent clinginess

Dryer sheets, and healthy Self-esteem. Nothing is more attractive than not being needy and clinging in the presence of your SO. When tempted to make like a sweet pea vine, remind yourself that a good relationship doesn’t ask you to debase yourself, or require you to beg for attention, and certainly doesn’t involve a mistrust of your partner that makes you demand to know her or his every move. Love yourself enough not to accept clinginess as part of your relationship repertoire, and then do something with your energy, mind, and time–any guy worth a **** will show up on a regular basis and give you no reason to feel insecure.

astrologically better than me

There is no such thing, and that goes for each and every one of us.

How to improve the social skills of a Cancer?

Ouch! Though Cancers can be some of the most kind, nurturing, and genuinely caring individuals around, they do have a tiny social blind spot: they often don’t seem to recognize that not everyone feels nurtured by their behavior. Sometimes it’s a matter of not noticing how uncomfortable all the Aquarians get when Cancer goes in for the group hug, and sometimes it’s a matter of being oblivious to the way those invited for Thanksgiving aren’t actually planning on camping in their jammies and drinking hot chocolate all the way through New Year’s. Cancer’s failure to notice people have lives of their own is very much akin to the way a loving parent may find it very hard to believe their grown child would prefer a date to family dinner–because with Cancer it feels a little like you’re expected at that family dinner every night. The positive side of this is that Cancer’s concern and wish to make comfortable everyone they meet is genuine and truly kind–and a large number of faux pas can be overlooked when the attitude is so loving (and the blankets, pillows, and snacks Cancer passes out don’t hurt their chances of being forgiven, either!) So lighten up on your Cancer–he or she mostly just needs a little schooling in boundaries, and a reminder that the entire world is not their cozy family room during a sleepover.

2 thoughts on “What You’re Asking: Asteroids and Social Skills

  1. LB February 24, 2010 / 12:56 pm

    Hi Julie – Your description of how Ceres operates in relation to others was very interesting. My own Ceres (in Libra in the 2nd) is part of a grand trine involving my Moon/Pholus conjunction in Aquarius (in the 5th), and my tight Midhaven/Aldebaran conjunction in Gemini – my Gemini Mars is placed less than 8 degrees away in the 9th. For many years, I worked in a school environment, providing practical, tactical, and emotional support for special education students, as well as their parents and teachers. When the school suddenly closed, it then became necessary for me to manage my ailing mother’s care full-time (my Ceres trines her Mars and Lilith – with Mars being the ruler of her 8th). In addition to providing financial and practical support, I also tried my best to give her the emotional comfort she needed as the dementia took hold and she slipped further and further away. Ceres also forms an exact quintile with my natal Saturn in the 4th, with Saturn being the ruler of my 5th.

    I’m currently trying to decide whether I want to continue working in a school environment, or else explore some new line of work – either involving the elderly, or maybe even something more “artistic” (I paint).

    My Ceres trines my husband’s Chiron in the 10th, and I’d have to say my influence there has been to encourage and nurture his professional/public image – a very sensitive point for him, especially since his Chiron forms a tight square to his Sun. Other than that, I don’t think I mother him – good thing, since as your post pointed out, mothering can be a romance-killer.

    Your post certainly gave me food for thought; it seems to validate my own experiences and the way I perceived them. While employed at the school, I always felt like I was “mother” to all, and occasionally the glue that held it all together – this was equally true with my mother. Thanks.

    Dear LB, Thank you for sharing your life experiences with Ceres (and clearly, in a Ceres frame you’ve shared yourself with others, nobly and lovingly). Ceres has been on my mind quite a bit lately, and she’ll be the headliner in the Spring issue of ‘Eclipse’, available in late April. I appreciate you taking the time to give us a glimpse into your life. Good luck, and remember, in making your choices concerning life path, it never needs to be an either/ or situation. Best, jd

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